Choose publisher: print/online news, online-only, website.Here are the basic steps to writing an obituary for your grandparent: Not only is it a matter of finding all the relevant information, but it’s also combining it in the right order, publishing it in the right place and also allowing the right people to see it. Writing one for your grandmother or grandfather may seem even more challenging for different reasons. Writing an obituary can feel like a daunting task.